Well, now that school has started, I've gotten some fuel again for a post! Well, not exactly 'fuel', but running on enthusiasm has gotten me this far, right? Anyway, I thought I would post another installation of "an an introvert!", school edition.
Before you get excited, no, this isn't a tutorial on how to get out of group projects. I know, I know. I feel your little hearts hoping even now, but alas, I cannot. I still have no clue as to how to do such a thing. If you ever figure it out, DON'T EVEN DO ANYTHING ELSE. CONTACT ME. TELL ME YOUR SECRETS.
Also, there will be no advice on how to get out of PE. Away from the baking sun. On the hot track. In the desert. With only lukewarm water to keep you alive. (Which doesn't work; it has made me dead inside.)
Instead, this is going to be more of a list of things to do to help you through your school year. Some of them are going to specifically apply to those who prefer not to talk, and some will just apply to every little soul out there, introvert or social butterfly.
1. Get Organized. I know, I know. You don't want to hear this any more. But just hear me out; being organized with your school work really does help you avoid awkward situations in the long run. For one, you never lose things, which means no Walk of Shame over to the teacher to quietly ask for another copy, and the subsequent look of disdain. Secondly, being organized also means you know exactly where to put things, and this means no longer being the last one out of class! Am I the only one that would rather hack through fellow students with a machete than be the last one out of the room? Don't lie to yourself.
2. Plan out your weekend in advance. And I do not mean with things to do with the outside world. I mean, something as simple as a checklist of things to do, like:
Watch Ouran High School Host Club
Do math homework
Knit new scarf
So on and so forth. Why does this help, and why should you even bother? Well, for one, it helps you be more organized (see above section), but beyond that, it helps feel the void of feeling like you didn't do anything all weekend. I, personally, feel very fulfilled when I check off *scroll through Tumblr* from my list, and it makes me feel like I actually DID something (though, lets be honest; Tumblr is never off our list). It makes you feel happier, and makes you feel more accomplished, and most of all, makes you feel more in control of your life, which is always a good thing to have in the stressful school year ^^
3. Treat yourself. Everytime you finish a group project, or everytime you have to work with a partner you don't feel comfortable with, or basically everytime you have to interact with 'undesireables', reward yourself. The bigger the problem was for you, and the more of a struggle it was to do it, the bigger the reward should be. Say it's eleven o'clock at night, and you just finished the entire group paper everyone was SUPPOSED to chip in with, and you feel like crying. Make a brownie-in-a-mug (Recipe will be posted below!), or perhaps a marathon of Fruits Basket the next day? Something to help make it all worth while will make the work or interaction seem easier to do, and will motivate you. And if the reward is good enough, maybe eventually, those tasks that were hard to do will slowly become easier without you noticing (distraction is the best short-term remedy for anxiety; I should know ^^)
4. Raise your hand for questions you KNOW. DON'T KILL ME WITH YOUR EYES THROUGH THE INTERNET. okay, I have tried this, and it really works. The teachers usually call on the people who never talk, and with our luck, we always get called on for the question we have no idea how to answer. But the kids that actually volunteer more often, rarely get victimised. Therefore, if you're ever confident in an answer, why not raise your hand, and see if it works! Of course, this is one that you have to consider. Some people are fine with raising their hand, and for others, they just don't feel comfortable. That's okay! I'm just saying that if you're comfortable with it, and its just a matter of preferring not to, try and experiment: raise your hand once or twice in one class you're particularly good at for a bit, and see how often they call on you after. Unless you have an idiot teacher, in which case, I am so sorry.
5. Humanize your teacher. This is both good for you and your teacher, because you get to maybe see your teacher in a more 3D light. Basically, I mean that you should see your teacher as an actual human for once. Sometimes this doesn't work, because let's be honest: some people are just awful, and teachers are no exception. But sometimes, seeing their faults and their quirks make them more relatable, and can make the whole experience more enjoyable. I always hate it when kids act really mean to teachers, because for some kids (not you darlings, but some), they somehow see that it's only in teenage-hood that you can experience hardships, and depression, and cutting, and disorders. They abuse their teachers that try to help, or try to understand, because they are so absorbed in their own problems that they fail to see how they're making another's even worse. How do you know that when your teacher goes home, that she doesn't get beat by her boyfriend? How do you know if her brother didn't just pass away, and she's trying to deal with it? What if your teacher's daughter has cancer, or that his wife is leaving him? How do you know that they don't go home and cry every single night? Who said that cutting is automatically cured when you get your teaching degree, or when you become an adult? And most of all, no one ever gave those kids the right to make their teachers' lives more difficult, because they really don't know each others lives at all. I remember once, that this one kid kept being difficult and made fun of our teacher in 10th grade, and suddenly she broke down crying, and had to leave the room. How horrible is that? To actually tease someone so bad that they break down crying in front of 30 people, and have to leave the room? And I think that when teenagers realise that, they can begin to see their teachers as less the enemy, than just another human struggling to get through the world.
There you go! I hope you liked this little list, because I enjoyed making it! I also hope that these tips, as general and cliché as they may sound, actually do help. If they don't, then I am so sorry. But! At least, you got a brownie recipe out of it all! ^^
(Tip: microwave for about 35 seconds as opposed to 45 for more gooiness)